Even before any indication of developmental issues came up, I didn't like that term. She's not lazy. Babies love to learn and explore. Just the opposite, they are frustrated by not being able to get around.
Once recently the kids were enjoying the sprinklers. The boys lied down on their stomachs into the water, so I tried to put Adel in also. She wasn't too excited about that and tried to keep her tummy from getting wet. As I lowered her, she got onto her hands and knees and kept that position! I was so excited! It was hard for her, but she managed it. I tried it with her at home, but it was a no-go. She just can't hold herself up. She managed for a few seconds (notice the look on her face!) and then started crying. She tries so hard, but she knows what she is able to do and what not. She's not lazy.
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It dawned on me that I don't know the results of Adel's newborn screening. I called the pediatrician's office and they said they don't have it. They asked me for the numbers on the pink slip. I don't know where the slip is, but I don't remember if I gave it in or misplaced it. I couldn't give that to her.
Next I called the doctor that we used before we switched. I took Adel there one time. Guess what? They refused to check her file because she isn't their patient anymore! :[ Talk about rude! They said they faxed the records. Oh, really? What annoys me the most is that when switching doctors, all that is faxed are the immunizations! The rest of the medical history is very important as well. Since Adi didn't have any shots, they faxed nothing for her.
If I knew for sure that I gave them the slip, I would raise all hell to get the results from them. But I don't remember. Everything was so fuzzy then.
I called Marcy (my midwife). The lady's a gem. She's just great. She told me she might have the screening results at home and if not, she will be able to get them for me. She's on vacation now and won't be home till next week, but even so she stayed on the phone with me asking about the delays and what the doctor thinks it may be... whom I will be taking Adel to. And her job is to deliver babies, not follow up on them!
What a contrast to the pediatrician who refused to check the file because we switched. (Just for the record, our insurance doesn't require a PCP and we can see any doctor we want. I can have one doctor for illnesses and one for checkups if I want. By requesting record transfer, it doesn't necessarily mean I am switching out for good. So where do they come off saying they won't check the medical info they have about my daughter just because I requested a copy of my other children's records to be faxed to another pediatrician??!
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ReplyDeleteglad Marcy's so helpful--midwives are the best! sorry about the frustrating circle of nothingness with that physician. Hashem will surely help everything to come at just the right time.
ReplyDeletei also hate the term lazy. i made the mistake of using it in the beginning with all the nursing issues with YY. the LC corrected me right away and i realized had i been thinking properly (read not freshly postpartum and running around like that) i'd surely have not used it myself.
i know from our conversations and the blog that Adel is definitely NOT lazy! she's got a very sharp mind and great sense of humor...totally with it. may she develop beautifully and completely, with the bracha of Hashem.
Adel didn't look lazy at the library. I learned not to compare my baby to others, and my friends know not to compare their kids to my daughter, each kid goes at their own pace.
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ReplyDeleteOf course it makes no sense to compare, but it's pretty hard to resist. Haha. Especially siblings. My boys were repeating words at 7 months and saying words independently at 9. While Adel only says vowels still at 10 months. No comparing, no comparing...
ReplyDeleteNow she sits on the carpet at the library and claps her hands and gasps at intervals. Haha.
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Boys and girls are different... though stereotypically boys are later by speech, my mother is a speech therapist-I can ask her what the norms are for 10 months.
ReplyDeleteYour boys spoke EARLY.